In St. Petersburg, FL: Making the Most of Creative Mornings

“Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep.”

~ Scott Adams

Creative Mornings believes everyone is creative.

Now, there’s a global community to support those making the most of their creativity.

That’s the introductory message I heard at a recent event in St. Petersburg, Florida. The Brooklyn-based Creative Mornings lecture series currently gathers in 164 creative communities around the world.

Each month, attendees gather at free events that center around a central theme. With coffee mugs in tow, participants enjoy sponsored brew, breakfast and a specially selected guest lecturer.

Stepping into 3 Daughters Brewery in St. Petersburg, Florida, for this month’s “Moments” theme, I was shocked to find over 150 in attendance. Spearheading its second event, the chapter is obviously striking a magnetic chord in this artsy, downtown district.

An opening joke cited the multitude of unemployed millennials in attendance. A second remark, referencing the 8:30 am start time as “too early for others to get out of bed,” garnered a few laughs as well.

Despite wondering if I’d need to slip out some back door if the speaker drifted too far from my polite tastes (the headline topic read: Don’t F*** it Up!), I found worthy content and some solid life lessons awaiting. 

Creative Morning’s Guest Lecturer Jimmy Breen

Jimmy Breen of Wax&Hive served as guest speaker, arriving on the scene to share his developmental story as creative director of tee shirts, mugs and more.

Breen initially appeared as a “cool guy,” but soon brought listeners along on a rocky journey to personal growth, professional refinement and commercial success as a creative. 

Wax&Hive’s Jimmy Breen talks at St. Petersburg, Florida Creative Mornings

What have been your defining moments in life? Breen asked the group before stepping into tales of his own.

His first moment took place in middle school. After noticing a portrait of an Indian woman in the cellar, and then learning that his mom was the artist, Jimmy became inspired. He’d become an artist, too!

We learned the moment Jimmy bought a book called How to Draw Like Marvel Comics. He learned how to copy other artists’ design work, but experienced a second moment of creative disappointment. Jimmy might be able draw, but a fellow middle school classmate bested him: he was drawing dragons out of his own imagination.

During a high school moment, Jimmy and his friends started a band. They claimed to be great, but Jimmy noted they weren’t.

“You know when you’re not good,” he confessed, “when the only ones supporting you are family and friends.”

Another defining moment arrived when the band performed poorly at a local venue and lost money, but the tee shirts Jimmy designed for the event all sold out. He returned to art, developing tee shirts for several music clients.

Stories of defining moments continued, but Jimmy made sure each one connected with Creative Mornings listeners. We heard of mistakes he’d made, aha! moments he acquired, cash he’d earned and burned, relationships he bruised, broke and/or repaired, and decisions that are helping him harmonize a business with his personal values and priorities.

For example, Jimmy now contracts with an on-demand tee shirt printer in California. He makes less per shirt but no longer bears the financial pitfalls of carrying excess inventory. He also has more free time, saving on the extra manufacturing hours required to do print work in-house. 

Breen might have arrived to talk about designing cool tee shirts and mugs. But his real value showed up in sharing the hardships, humility and mundane lessons he’d learned to gain mastery over his craft and profit for his commercial ventures.    

Jimmy concluded with a few great take aways. Keep doing what you really love, stay committed to your craft and make it a priority, and never give up on your dream — even if you have to get burnished while achieving it.

I’m looking forward to this July. I’ll be getting together with Fabrizio Pagani, Creative Morning’s local chapter director, when he arranges a special coffee for us in Rome, Italy!   

Wherever you are in the world, wishing for your creativity to emerge, too. 

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Can Stubbornness be Good for You?

“It gives me great pleasure indeed to see the stubbornness of an incorrigible nonconformist warmly acclaimed.”

~ Albert Einstein

Can stubbornness be a good thing? Perhaps it can!

If we think of the word in its worst form, it conjures negative, often anti-social, ideas about being difficult and unreasonable.

But turned on its head, stubbornness can illuminate some higher level personal qualities that can prove highly beneficial. Channeled in a positive fashion, your once sassy and childlike stubbornness can help you obstinately maintain a course of action when others all around you would succumb or surrender.
I hope you find today’s video, filmed in Sarajevo, Bosnia-Herzegovina, to demonstrate the positive side of stubbornness.
Though over a century old and taking place during a seemingly different era, it conveys an extraordinary tale of a real life, Stubborn Man. The man’s love for his home was so internally fixed and his unwillingness to move from his own values, desires and single-minded course of action ultimately delivered him great benefits.
In short, one rather insignificant, but stoically stubborn, man was successfully able to dictate his requests to the leadership of the former Austro-Hungarian Empire.
The outcome proved beneficial to both parties.
The former empire got what it wanted in constructing a Town Hall on the site of their choice. However, the empire didn’t get their new building until they submitted to the will — and filled the wallet — of a seemingly inconsequential, but stubbornly purposed, citizen. 
May the strength of your own stubbornness move something major in your life so that it happily complies with your wishes, too!

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What a Wonderful World

Outside the Welcome Center of Safety Harbor, FL Arts & Music Center

“What a wonderful phenomenon it is, carefully considered, when the human eye, that jewel of organic structures, concentrates its moist brilliance on another human creature!”

~ Thomas Mann

When we make it our choice to see, the world truly is a wonderful place in which to be.

German novelist and 1929 Nobel Prize laureate Thomas Mann made this observation years ago during an era when there were likely many reasons to fret, fear and fight. 

In 1967, during a time of civil unrest in the United States, a similar proclamation was made by legendary jazz musician Louis Armstrong.

“What a wonderful world!” remains one of his most enduring and uplifting hits.

The grandson of slaves, Louie Armstrong (aka “Satchmo”) was born in New Orleans, Louisiana at the turn of the last century. Abandoned by his dad when he was an infant, young Louie worked in a variety of capacities as a child to keep his mom out of prostitution. Despite challenges, Armstrong found his own reasons to smile at life. A trumpeter, composer, singer and occasional actor, he enjoyed a robust entertainment career that spanned five decades and crossed over many divides.

Each day, we have an opportunity to do more than await a wonderful world. We can choose to see it within and make a beautiful world ourselves. Whether it’s through major works like philanthropy or small gestures like helping a neighbor cross the street, we are all visionaries and creators of that cosmos.

If you’re seeking a reminder today that we already are in a wonderful world, look no further. 

Listen and appreciate the world that we all seek — everywhere.

For more inspiration on the topic, read and listen to my post entitled Seeing with Our Eyes Closed.
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Fifty Years After the March, How Far Have We Advanced?


Today strikes the official half-century mark when over a hundred thousand civil rights activists marched on Washington and Martin Luther King, Jr. delivered his epic speech at the Lincoln Memorial. His immediate message called for the end of segregation and the integration of blacks into American society. But his larger vision extended to a future when the U.S. populace would conduct its legislative, social and moral affairs without prejudice of any kind.

A century had passed since America’s Emancipation Proclamation when King delivered his 1963 speech. But despite a national edict legislating their inclusion into the citizenry, life for most black Americans remained largely unchanged. The soul of America, exercising segregation with an often exclusionary spirit, remained way behind the ideal.

MLK’s oratory a half century ago was strong, stirring and high-minded. His compelling public words cut to the conscience of certain white Americans who remained steeped in fear, prejudice and entitlement. But admonitions to his own people cut an equal, if not different, challenge. He urged black brethren to move forward through peaceful non-aggression and the refusal to answer violence and injustice with more of the same.

Few will deny that MLK’s spirit lives on in legendary fashion. Walking the talk, he led the civil rights movement through peaceful means and paid for the cause with his life.  He stands among figures in U.S. history who have helped define and advance the ideals of a nation alternately referred to as The New World, The Melting Pot and The Land of Opportunity.

Clothed in dark complexion, Dr. King emerged during a climactic time in American history. Yet my view and estimation of the man goes beyond any color. MLK engenders a vision and spirit that melds into mine, calling all of us to a higher standard of character and a better form of life.

As we all pause to reflect on his I Have a Dream speech, I offer my video from a visit to Martin Luther King’s childhood home. I also republish, in no particular order, lesser-quoted but equally compelling quotes from MLK’s historic speech.

 Nineteen sixty-three is not an end, but a beginning.

In the process of gaining our rightful place, we must not be guilty of wrongful deeds.

Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred.

Continue to work with the faith that unearned suffering is redemptive.

We must not allow our creative protest to degenerate into physical violence.

We must forever conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity and discipline.

I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged not by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.

My hope is that readers of every age, race, culture and creed consider these ideals. As a nation, we’ve made substantial progress blurring the color barriers of 1963. But let’s continue to advance as a people, equalizing our collective citizenship while aspiring toward the finer character in all of us.

Then, just maybe, we’ll all be free at last. Blog Close on Shoreline copy

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Podcast 111: What Are You Listening To?

Maura4u Be Happy. Do Better“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” 

~ Ernest Hemingway

What are you listening to, and are you even aware?

In my latest podcast, I examine the way we inadvertently act as self-censors. We screen in certain types of news, ideas, sounds and insights while screening out others!

If you have never considered how what you listen to impacts your sense of well-being, this is a podcast for you.

In just a few minutes, I share a bit of my own background. I talk about the process of learning how to listen in ways that would empower, rather than depress, my sensibilities and thoughts.

I also talk about an easy-to-do listening exercise that I shared with participants during a recent smoking cessation retreat. If you’re looking to become more aware of what you’re hearing, the exercise will help you become more conscious.

You’ll be better equipped to take inventory of your own thoughts and make positive, intentional choices that bring a sense of authority back to where it belongs – with you!

Finally, listen to our guest Sam Dykstra as he shares what makes him happy from the inside out.

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Special Holiday Podcast: Peace on Earth

“Imagine all the people living life in peace. You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us, and the world will be as one.”

~ John Lennon

My inspiration for this holiday podcast originally arose not from the lyrics of John Lennon’s Imagine, but from the remembrance of something else.

For several days, I thought about an ancient star in the sky, the one Magi from the East followed in search of a promised “christ” child.

Surprisingly, these Magi were outside the cultural and religious traditions of the Jews, into which Jesus, or the promised child, would appear. 

The story of the Magi remains a mystery as well as a modern day truism. Presumably, it took “outsiders” to recognize the ultimate “insider” — one who would embody the promise of peace on earth and the physical presence of goodwill toward men. The Magi had an internal knowing that drew them to acknowledge the desire of their hearts and fulfill the yearnings of their souls.

Though my podcast is not religious in nature, it invites every listener to find peace on earth by discovering, and following after it, from within.

Imagine a world where all of mankind became the embodiment of peace on earth? I imagine it all the time and hope that the intent of my words will find their way to your heart and imagination, too.

This is a special podcast because I’ve invited several of my friends and followers to share their holiday greetings.

Listen to the voices of: Debbie from New York; Rogert Ago from Albania; sisters Natalie and Lydia from St. Petersburg, Florida; Francene from Brooklyn, New York; Antonio Fernando Onze from Brazil; Lynn Consoli from Manahawkin, New Jersey; Roger Moran from Scotland; David from Akron, Ohio; Bojan Spasojevic from Belgrade, Serbia; Greg Larsen from Toms River, New Jersey; Patty Elizee from Orlando, Florida; and the Heath family from Miskoka, Canada. 

May the heart of this holiday podcast bring a light of peace to you this season and may that peace become your true and everlasting home. 

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Podcast 109 Are You a Stereotype?

Maura Sweeney podcast Living Happy Inside OutAre you a stereotype?

Conversely, have you been pigeon-holing those around you?

We often relate to and relegate others to stereotypes. Why? Because stereotypes help us bring simple understanding and create mental reference points to an otherwise highly complex world.

Surprisingly, the same process that appears to bring simplicity to our life can also limit us in other ways. By categorizing people into specifically ordered profiles, we super-impose preconceived ideas about them into our minds. Doing so means we limit our ability to know others in a fuller or more authentic sense.

Stereotypes can work against our personal growth, too. If we see ourselves only as carbon copies of the group to which we relate, we may stifle our more creative expression or reflect a narrower spectrum of who we truly are to the world. 

A Quote on Stereotyping from Harry Connick, Jr.  

Singer Harry Connick, Jr. captured how restrictions arise through stereotyping when he made the following remark.
“I’ve learned that people latch onto labels and stereotypes. There was a period when I was asked in every single interview how I liked being the new Frank Sinatra… I think people will soon realize that I do a lot more than interpret old songs.”
It’s certainly true. Harry Connick, Jr. may have originally reminded many of the iconic Frank Sinatra. Perhaps his similarity to Sinatra helped audiences initially identify with his talent and his genre. However, Connick eventually revealed himself as a full-bodied entertainer, one highly distinguishable in his own right.

Facebook’s COO Sheryl Sandberg Talks Stereotypes

Another thoughtful quote comes from Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook and the founder of 
“We can each define ambition and progress for ourselves. The goal is to work toward a world where expectations are not set by the stereotypes that hold us back, but by our personal passion, talents and interests.” 
Have you ever felt pigeon-holed or limited by others’ ideas about who you are? If not, you might be wondering if you’ve engaged in stereotyping others around you.
Either way, today’s podcast may enlighten your thought life and broaden your perceptions. It will also introduce you to Bryan Rivera of Queens, NY and how he defines living happy from the inside out. 
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Feeling Free, Alive and Identity-Wise

MS butterfly chair v.2“In the social jungle of human existence, there is no feeling of being alive without a sense of identity.”

 ~ Erik Erikson

How free and alive are you feeling these days?

If the constraints of “adulthood” have dimmed your enthusiasm or daunted your sense of liberty, you’re hardly alone.

A father of the psychological human development movement and coiner of the popular phrase “identity crisis,” Erik Erikson recognized the link between forging our personal identity and cultivating our sense of vitality.

The early 20th century psychoanalyst, who rose to prominence writing about the human life cycle, touches upon an important point in his above referenced quote. 

When we’re young, we imagine ourselves in unlimited ways. We fearlessly dream up identities of our own choosing and conjure ideas about ourselves that know no bounds.

But as we grow up and conform to what society and others dictate, we can lose our luster in life and also diminish our personal pizzazz.

Maura Sweeney in Foundations of HappinessWhat Childhood Fascinations Can Teach Us

As one who believes we often glean clues to life from early childhood experiences, I thought I’d look into my own past. For example, what wild fascinations did I cherish as a youngster that provide me with veins of vivacity and identity today?

As it turns out, my earliest fantasies about life and identity arose from the air above and the allure of personal flight.

For example, I watched with curiosity as airplanes flew over my childhood home and contemplated what it would feel like to sleep in the sky atop soft, billowy clouds.

Watching Sunday evening episodes of The Wonderful World of Disney,  I yearned to grow a set of wings; I wanted to fly like Tinkerbell. After school reruns played a role, too. Watching Superman take to the air wearing his cape caused me to fashion one of my own using a pillow case cover. I wanted to leap up and out into the great unknown, cruising the sky while streets and tall buildings passed beneath my gaze.

When Flexible Flier TV ads boasted that kids could “fly through the air” in their sneakers, I pleaded with my mom to buy me a pair. If kids on the commercials could jump high and leap above the ground wearing these athletic shoes with a wing logo, then I wanted to do the same. 

Mesmerized by Mary Poppins, I once took a large umbrella into the street on an especially blustery day. In the same way this magical character performed feats of flight in the movie, I tried to take off into the wind, too.

In many ways, the ability to fly fueled my every childhood imagination. The notion inspired my freedom, piqued my fancy and beckoned me toward an inwardly cultivated sense of identity.

As you might imagine, I never grew wings like Walt Disney’s Tinkerbell character. I never jumped as high as those Flexible Flier ads claimed. Neither was I able to fly in that makeshift Superman cape or catch sufficient wind gusts in my umbrella to lift into the air like Mary Poppins.

However, by entertaining those early ideas and retaining an affinity for them, a uniqueness to my identity eventually managed to emerge.

As I took up interests in foreign cultures and found opportunities to travel via the more common wings of jet propulsion, those early musings found alternate means of expression.

I’m sure some find my many air travels too distant, too challenging or, at times, even too boring. But for me, there’s a feeling of expansion and personal exhilaration.

The outgrowth from my childhood fantasies has helped me connect with different people, learn from a variety of perspectives and broaden my knowledge base in ways that traditional academics and a former corporate career could not. Finding ways to entertain that early fascination with flight has both differentiated me from others and kept me tapped into a personally pleasing life force. 

I may have added years to my physical frame, but the spirit within keeps me interested, engaged, and even enlivened at midlife.

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What inspires one does not inspire all. Though we share several common bonds, we are each invited to employ our own hearts and imaginations to create a life and identity sufficient to call our own.

If you feel a need for greater freedom, vitality or sense of self, I hope you take a few moments for personal reflection. Remind yourself of what your early fascinations looked like.

Then find at least one small way to turn those youthful whims into an adult reality on your own terms today. 

With this theme in mind, may you be inspired by my latest podcast entitled, Who Do You Want to Be?

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Podcast 107 Thanksgiving for Gifts in Disguise

Maura Sweeney Podcast Cover“Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life.”

~ Anne Roiphe

It would be great if every gift we received was a welcome one.

Unfortunately, not every “gift” arrives bearing happy sentiments and a reason to celebrate.

At times, we all encounter life-altering situations. They may show up as an illness, the loss of a job, an unexpected divorce or any one of a number of uncomfortable and even gut-wrenching scenarios.

This latest podcast is not designed as a downer. To the contrary, I’m utilizing it as an opportunity to give thanks during the Thanksgiving holidays. We can all find reasons to be thankful for the obvious: a loving relationship, the warmth of a home, the companionship of a beloved pet, the arrival of a new child.

But when holidays arrive and we are hard-pressed to find joy, a podcast like the following may be just what you need in the moment. May this one help you anticipate some unexpected “gifts” from the curve balls that would otherwise daunt your spirit.

What might such gifts look like? 

Consider gain in the midst of loss, increase following diminution, advancement in the process of setback and growth in the process of decrease.

The above statement above reads like a series of contradictions. But with a willingness to brave through uncomfortable and sometimes gut-wrenching life encounters, we can emerge with unexpected gains that might never have received through more common channels.

In the following podcast, I share a personal story of how grief arrived and ultimately brought me gain. Forcing me to face my fears and examine elements of my life that I preferred to ignore, I ultimatly grew in self-knowledge as well as a greater understanding of others.

This Thanksgiving season, you might be facing some of your own fears. You might be presented with a gift you, too, would rather exchange for a better one.

May the following podcast, entitled Thanksgiving for Gifts in Disguise, lift your spirits and help you see yourself through a more hopeful lens.

Your current situation might not immediately change, but the expectation of a brighter, happier and more peaceful you may begin to emerge.

Sending you my wishes for a season of thankfulness as you listen below.


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Podcast 106 Living in Polarity or Peace?

screen-shot-2016-11-15-at-8-49-22-am  “Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether you let it affect you or not.”

~ Valerie Bertinelli
“You find nice people wherever you go,” my daughter quipped to me last year.

She smiled in recognition of my consistent mindset following my return from a luncheon. It was one of several political gatherings I’d attend on both sides of the proverbial fence as our nation moved closer to the 2016 Presidential election.

It’s true, I do find nice people everywhere. But it’s likely because my choice is to view them from the heart and soul rather than see them through polarized or labeling lenses.
Admittedly, some people are brash and close-minded but I won’t relegate truculent personalities to one named group or another. When there’s neither inspiration to be gained nor common ground to be discovered, my attention floats to others endowed with higher ideals, bigger ideas and more constructive conversation.
As our latest national election has come to a close, I’ve been struck by polarized people in both camps: some who believe they’ve lost and others who think they’ve gained.
Days before election day, I bumped into a middle aged friend. He’d endured what he believed was a constant barrage from the “liberal left” painting him as an angry white male and was already bemoaning a Hillary win.
“I’ve never been prejudiced, but I’m supposed to feel guilty for being white. If Hillary gets in, the hate speech will only get worse. I’ll be unheard and invisible!”   
I understood the man’s feelings, but couldn’t agree with his position.
“Why allow anyone in office to daunt the way you feel about yourself?” I asked him. “Never allow a figurehead of any sort to dictate your estimation of self.”
Observing some today on the opposite side who feel similarly victimized, minimized and afraid, I’d offer the same advice.
Maura Sweeney in Foundations of HappinessProtesting Authority
At 9 years old, my fourth grade teacher’s authority loomed over me.
With a stern countenance and intimidating air, her presence glowered above from my spot in the front row seat. She’d often call on me, but mostly when I hadn’t raised my hand. She never missed an opportunity to publicly point out my wrong answers.
Was she trying to find fault with me? I wondered. 
That fall, the teacher remarked unfavorably about my weight as I took my turn to step atop the nurse’s scale. My weight registered above average for a girl my age, but the teacher’s audible remark and outward disapproval added to my shame.
Months later, a similar thing happened when she called me to her desk to pick up my class photo.
“You must have been afraid when the photographer took your picture,” she remarked, addressing the obviously blank face it bore.
I was confused, frightened, distraught. I dreaded getting up for school.
Late one afternoon, I literally took matters into my own hand. Using white chalk, I defiantly drew a stick figure of my teacher on the schoolyard asphalt. Attiring her in a triangular dress, I carefully depicted her with an angry glare and a familiar set of eyeglasses.
Beneath the image, I wrote a new name for my authority figure: “Mrs. Crappy.”
Finishing my art work, I felt somewhat empowered. I’d expressed a personal angst that apparently had no other form of outlet that year. However, my supposedly stealthy protest didn’t go unnoticed. The next morning, I was summoned to the principal’s office.
“Did you draw that picture in the schoolyard?” the principal asked.
“No,” I lied, now intimidated anew.
“Maura, the custodian was cleaning out my office yesterday afternoon and saw you drawing outside the window.”
At barely 10 years old, I was busted. Looking out the window at my work, I was forced to fess up.
I acknowledged defacing the schoolyard and admitted to unkind name-calling. But I also used this unanticipated opportunity to share some specific instances where I felt treated in a biased fashion by my teacher. I had nothing to lose.
Airing my fears, some legitimate and others overblown by imagination, actually worked toward a good outcome. My voice was heard and my position partially acknowledged.
“I’ll ask the teacher to move your seat,” the principal offered. “It might be good for you both.”
It was.
Maura Sweeney in Foundations of HappinessChoose Happiness
Life always presents us with opportunities to feel marginalized, demonized and even victimized. But it also presents us opportunities to choose something else. We can see something else and even be something else.
Though I suffered emotionally, that fourth grade experience helped me move slightly upward on my path to emotional maturity. Forced to confront my condition and communicate it to a figurehead helped me grow. I felt less voiceless, less victimized, less small.
Today I’m grateful. One of several life challenges, it would equip me in transitioning from inward child to self-governing adult. It also helped move me away from polarity.
In the above quote, Valerie Bertinelli wisely advises that there will be stress in life. In a polarized world, we can hardly avoid it. Still, it remains our choice as to how we respond. 
Designed for peace every day of the year, my latest podcast is for those still struggling with polarizing thoughts on both sides of our latest Presidential election. 
Maura Sweeney podcast Living Happy Inside OutThere’s always the choice for happiness and I hope you choose it today!
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